The location of your service is the first opportunity to set the tone for your farewell. You might prefer a traditional venue – such as a funeral home, church, temple, or crematorium – but you don’t have to follow convention. 

Maybe you’d prefer to have your funeral at home, in a garden you love, or by the beach. Some people might like to specify a meaningful spot for their wake – a restaurant for food lovers, an AFL club for sports fans, or an art gallery for those with a creative spirit. When you pre-plan, the choice is all yours.

Music has the power to bring back memories, stir emotions and set the mood for your farewell. While some people might prefer traditional hymns or classical pieces to be played at their services, your playlist can be anything that speaks to you – whether that’s the Beatles, Beyoncé, or showtunes from your favourite musical. 

Remember, a funeral doesn’t have to mean sad or slow music – if “Hakuna Matata” from The Lion King or “Flowers” by Miley Cyrus feels right for you, include it in your plan! Your friends and family will love it because it will remind them of you. 

Readings can be a beautiful way to share words that reflect your beliefs, values, or personality. You might choose religious passages, poetry, or something a little different – an excerpt from a book you love, lyrics from a song, or a quote from a favourite movie. 

As part of your planning, you could also write a letter to be read at your service. And again, your final message to your family and friends doesn’t have to be serious or sad – your letter could include funny stories, jokes, or even a list of your favourite life lessons.

Photos, videos and personal belongings can help bring your story to life. You might like your family to display your favourite pictures or invite guests to contribute their own. A memory wall allows friends and family to pin up notes or photos. 

Displaying personal items at the service or wake, such as your AFL jersey, travel souvenirs, or artwork, can make the space feel even more personal. Some people even opt for a custom-painted coffin that reflects their passions and personality.

Why not set a dress code for your funeral? You might prefer traditional black or cultural attire, or you could ask your guests to wear something colourful. Some people even choose themed outfits – think Hawaiian shirts for a beach lover or sports jerseys for a lifelong fan.

Your farewell doesn’t have to end when the service does. You might like guests to leave with a keepsake, such as seed packets to plant in your memory, bookmarks with your favourite quotes, or candles to light in remembrance. 

Some people request donations to a charity instead of flowers, while others choose a lasting tribute – a dedicated park bench, a tree planting, or something else that feels meaningful to them.